The biggest mistakes in a long-distance relationship
Expectations and mistakes in relationships
When you and your partner decide that you are a good match and are ready to begin your long-distance relationship, you have no idea what challenges await you. So, that the feelings don't fade away and make your communication a pleasure for you, we would like to warn you against making the worst relationship mistakes that can spoil your relations.
The first thing you should do at the beginning of your relationship is to discuss your expectations concerning your union. Ignoring this stage would be an unforgivable mistake. If you make it, one day you will discover that one of you wants your relationship to end with marriage and the other one is seeking only a light affair.
What mistakes should you avoid in your relations?
- 1. Ignoring the difference in cultural attitudes When communicating with a Russian girl, you may think that she is too formal. In fact, Russian girls are tender, sensual, and romantic. They are just brought up in an environment where it is not very common to show your emotions openly. Moreover, they are shy because their English is not perfect and they try to use mostly short and simple phrases.
- 2. Controlling your partner’s life It is not the best idea to control every step of your partner's life and blame him for each missed call or unanswered message. Such behavior will definitely become a reason for problems in your relationship. Don’t lose trust in the one you love and don’t violate his or her boundaries.
- 3. Avoiding discussing the problems openly If you have some doubts connected with your relationships, let them out. Don’t let your fantasy think for your partner. Don’t waste your time worrying, just discuss your ideas with your partner. Avoid criticism and blaming, speak only about your feelings. Often, a frank discussion helps to solve all the problems, avoid making mistakes in relationships and make them stronger and more honest.
- 4. Breaking agreements If you have set a time for a call, don’t miss it. There may be different situations: connection failures or another force majeure. In this situation, tell your partner that you remember the agreement and regret that you made him or her worry as soon as possible. Communication problems often appear on the spot, and it is important to avoid them.
- 5. Trying to change your partner Don’t forget that both of you are grownups with formed characters, habits, and a worldview. If there is something that you do not like in your partner or you think that you can change him or her, this may become the main reason for problems in your relationship. Be tolerant of other people's weaknesses, try to understand each other, make some concessions.
- 6. Dwelling on your relationships Don’t think about your partner 24 hours a day. Don’t send him or her thousands of messages. You’d better not call him or her every day to talk for 5-6 hours. Concentrate on yourself, live a full life, meet your friends, learn the language at least. Then you’ll have many topics to discuss with your partner, and there will be no room for worries. Insecurities are causing relationship problems.
- 7. Postponing your meeting Try your best to meet in the first two months after you’ve started communicating, at least for a couple of days. In a reversible situation, your ties are severed. Attempt each option. Choose a country that is convenient for both of you. Discuss the financial questions.
